Islam Today: The Virtues of Having Daughter According to Islam ~ Hi readers! It’s great that I can greet you all again on this blog. Previously, I wanted to say an apology, because some time ago I could not write articles for this blog. My mind was chaotic then, especially since I am now in my country, Indonesia. I have just completed my studies in al-Azhar University, Cairo, Egypt. Honestly, I am very happy to greet you guys again on this blog.
In this article I will invite you to know the virtues and benefits of someone who has a daughter in the Islamic view. Our discussion this time relates to the glory of women in general. But for this time, I just focus on one of the roles of daughter to her parents.
Perhaps we already know, that before Islam came in the Arabian Peninsula. Parents at the time were embarrassed if they had daughters. In fact, there are some people who will kill their daughters alive. The story of that can be seen in the words of Allah Ta’ala;
وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُم بِٱلۡأُنثَىٰ ظَلَّ وَجۡهُهُۥ مُسۡوَدّٗا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٞ ٥٨ يَتَوَٰرَىٰ مِنَ ٱلۡقَوۡمِ مِن سُوٓءِ مَا بُشِّرَ بِهِۦٓۚ أَيُمۡسِكُهُۥ عَلَىٰ هُونٍ أَمۡ يَدُسُّهُۥ فِي ٱلتُّرَابِۗ أَلَا سَآءَ مَا يَحۡكُمُونَ ٥٩
And when a daughter is announced to one of them his face becomes black and he is full of wrath  He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that which is announced to him. Shall he keep it with disgrace or bury it (alive) in the dust? Now surely evil is what they judge . (An-Nahl ; 58-59).
But after the prophet Muhammad shallallaahu ‘alahi wa sallam was sent to be Prophet and Apostle, such understanding and behavior were eliminated. Even the teachings of Islam that he conveyed asserted that there is no difference between men and women. Moreover, even Islam says that girls can give their own good for both parents. Such information can be seen below;
فَٱسۡتَجَابَ لَهُمۡ رَبُّهُمۡ أَنِّي لَآ أُضِيعُ عَمَلَ عَٰمِلٖ مِّنكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ أَوۡ أُنثَىٰۖ بَعۡضُكُم مِّنۢ بَعۡضٖۖ فَٱلَّذِينَ هَاجَرُواْ وَأُخۡرِجُواْ مِن دِيَٰرِهِمۡ وَأُوذُواْ فِي سَبِيلِي وَقَٰتَلُواْ وَقُتِلُواْ لَأُكَفِّرَنَّ عَنۡهُمۡ سَئَِّاتِهِمۡ وَلَأُدۡخِلَنَّهُمۡ جَنَّٰتٖ تَجۡرِي مِن تَحۡتِهَا ٱلۡأَنۡهَٰرُ ثَوَابٗا مِّنۡ عِندِ ٱللَّهِۚ وَٱللَّهُ عِندَهُۥ حُسۡنُ ٱلثَّوَابِ ١٩٥
So their Lord accepted their prayer: That I will not waste the work of a worker among you, whether male or female, the one of you being from the other; they, therefore, who fled and were turned out of their homes and persecuted in My way and who fought and were slain, I will most certainly cover their evil deeds, and I will most certainly make them enter gardens beneath which rivers flow; a reward from Allah, and with Allah is yet better reward. (Ali ‘Imraan ; 195).
قال النبي صلي الله عليه وسلم : إن الله حرم عليكم عقوق الأمهات ,ومنعا وهات , ووأد البنات , وكره لكم قيل وقال , وكثرة السؤال , وإضاعة المال
Prophet Muhammad shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah forbids you lawless to the Mothers, refuses duty and entrants that are not your right, bury the daughters, Allah hates you spread gossip and talkative, often begging, and scatter the treasure.” (The hadith is narrated by Imam al-Bukhari, 2408, 5975, 6473, 7292).
عن إبن عباس رضي الله عنهما قال : سمعت رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم يقول : ما من مسلم له إبنتان فيحسن إليهما ماصحبتاه أوصحبهما إلا أدخلتا الجنة
From Ibnu Abbas radliyallaahu ‘anhumaa, he said, “I have heard the Messenger of Allah shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,” No Muslim has two daughters “but he did good to both of them as long as they were with him or as long as he was with them, unless they both will put it in Heaven.” (Ibnu Majah, 3670, and Imam Ahmad, 2105).
عن إبن إبن عباس رضي الله عنهما قال : قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم : من كان له أنثي فلم يئدها ولم يهنها ولم يؤثره ولده عليها – يعنا الذكور – أدخله الله الجنة
From Ibn Abbas radliyallaahu ‘anhumaa, he said, “Messenger of Allah shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever has a daughter, he does not kill her by being buried alive, does not humiliate her, and does not favor a son of her, then Allah will put it in Heaven.” (Ahmad, 1/223, Abu Daud, 5146, al-Hakim, 4/177).
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم : لا يكون لأحدكم ثلاث بنات أو ثلاث أخوات فيحسن إليهن إلا دخل الجنة
The Messenger of Allah shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “It is not one of you who has three daughters or three sisters, and he does good to them unless he enters Heaven.” (Imam at-Tirmidzi, 1835).
عن عقبة بن عامر رضي الله عنه قال : سمعت رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم يقول : من كان له ثلاث بنات , فصبر عليهن وأطعمهن وسقاهن وكساهن من جدته , كن له حجابا من النار يوم القيامة
From ‘Uqbah bin’ Amir radliyallaahu ‘anhu, he said, “I have heard Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,” Whoever has three daughters, he be patient with them, he feeds, drinks, and clothes them from his business, then they will be a barrier for him from the fire of Hell on the Day of Judgment.” (Jalaluddin as-Suyuthi, al-Jaami’ ash-Shaghiir, 6488, Ibnu Majah, 3669, al-Bukhari, al-Adab al-Mufrad, 79).
Actually, there are many verses of the Qur’an and hadith of Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam related to this topic of our conversation. But I think some of the above verses and hadiths are sufficient to represent it.
Here, by looking at the above description, we can conclude several things as follows;
One; Islam forbids killing girls for any reason.
Two; Islam equalizes men and women.
Three; Islam will reward Heaven to anyone with a daughter and a sister on condition that she is willing to take care of them, take care of them, love them, be patient with them.
Four; Islam forbids the harm of girls and sisters.
Five; Anyone who wants to enter Heaven should take care of his daughter and sister.
That is the virtue and the benefit of those who have daughters in the view of Islam. Equality of rights and rights of girls is done by Islam because there should be no different views on boys and girls. All the same in the teachings of Islam. The existence of this equation certainly increasingly affirms to us, that Islam is a religion that brings compassion for all beings.
I think that’s enough for this article about the virtues of having daughter according to Islam. May be useful! Hopefully this article adds to our understanding of women in Islamic view so that it can help spread love in the universe! Amen!
See you again d next article!