Islamic Reference Center: Hi readers! In this article I will explain a little about the appreciation and humanity behind the marriage of the Prophet Muhammad with Ummu Salamah. The name of his wife this one is Ummu Salamah bint Abu Umaiyah bin Mughirah bin Abdullah bin Amru bin Makhzum. Her mother is Atikah bint Amir bin Rabi’ah bin Malik.
Ummu Salamah’s real name, in a valid opinion, is Hindun. But there are also those who say that her real name is Ramlah. She was called Ummu Salamah because she had a son named Salamah.
Ummu Salamah is among the women who first converted to Islam. She is a smart, perfect and beautiful woman. She had migrated twice; to Habasyah and to Medina.
At first, Ummu Salamah was Abu Salamah’s wife. Abu Salamah’s real name was Abdullah bin Abdul Asad. He was the eleventh person who first entered Islam. Thus, he is also a very strong Islamic warrior. They both married in the fourth year after the Prophet Muhammad was appointed as an Apostle. At that time, she was four 14 years old.
There is a very strong love bond between Ummu Salamah and Abu Salamah. It was evident that she would not marry again if Abu Salamah died first. She did that because she wanted to gather with him in Heaven later. Abu Salamah was indeed a male. When he hears his wife’s desire, he instead hopes that there will be men who are better than him who will marry her, men who will not hurt her, who will not make her sad, and always love her.
A few months after the battle of Uhud Abu Salamah died. During the war he was injured by an arrow. The arrow stuck in his body he pulled himself. The household of Abu Salamah and Ummu Salamah lasted for thirteen years. After he died, she wondered, “Who is a man better than her husband?”
For Muslims during the time of the Prophet Muhammad married a widow whose husband died because the war defended the religion of Allah there was an obligation. The goal is to keep her faith and help her in economic terms. All the companions of the Prophet Muhammad and he himself was very concerned about that. After a period ‘Iddah Ummu Salamah finished Abu Bakr asked for her hand but she refused. The same thing was done by Umar. He was rejected. The Prophet Muhammad then sent Umar to meet her. She said, “Welcome, O messenger of Messenger of Allah. Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and I have children. There is no family that witnesses…”
The Prophet Muhammad then came to see Ummu Salamah and said, “As for your words, “Indeed I have a child,” then indeed Allah will provide you with your children. As for your words, “I am actually a jealous woman,” I will pray to God so that He will eliminate your jealousy. As for your family, there is not one of them who exists and who does not exist unless he will approve me.” She then said, “O Umar, stand up and marry the Messenger of Allah.”
From the above paragraph we can conclude, that the person who married Ummu Salamah with the Prophet Muhammad was Umar bin Abu Salamah, her son.
In addition, we can also conclude that the marriage of the Prophet Muhammad with Ummu Salamah was a reward in accordance with the heavy burden that she was responsible for after entering Islam. Historical data explains, that after she converted to Islam, she left his family. We can say that after Abu Salamah’s death she only had many children. She and her children need a living to meet their daily needs. Or it could be that the marriage took place as a form of Abu Salamah’s prayer. Above I have said that Abu Salamah hoped that in the future he would die there would be a better man than himself who married Ummu Salamah, a man who would never hurt her and make her sad.
When the Prophet Muhammad married Ummu Salamah many Madinah women talked about her beauty and nobleness. That made Aisha jealous and wanted to know her figure. Aisha was very sad because of that. Aisha considered her to be able to block Aisha love with him. After Aishah saw her, Aishah saw a woman who was far more beautiful than what they were told. Aisha said this to Hafshah binti Umar bin Khattab who was also one of his wives.
Hafsah then went to see Ummu Salamah. After she saw Ummu Salamah she came to Aishah and said, “She (Ummu Salamah) is beautiful. But he is not as beautiful as people say, O Aisha. The old condition appears on her. Most of her young charms have been lost with the past days, there are only a few lefts that will not last long.” Aisha then saw the truth of Hafshah’s words.
In addition to the beauty that is the advantage of Ummu Salamah, she is also a smart woman and many narrated hadith. Many people take the hadith from her. She has a very large role in the spread. There are her several questions that are the cause of the decline in the verse of the Qur’an.
In addition, Ummu Salamah also has several advantages as follows;
One; She is a very beautiful woman. The women of the people of Makhzum, her people, were very famous for their beauty and loyalty.
Two; She has a special intelligence and a very right opinion.
Three; She is very loyal to her husband. We can prove it by looking at her words with her ex-husband, Abu Salamah.
Four; There are several verses of the Qur’an which came down when the Prophet Muhammad was in her house;
وَقَرۡنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجۡنَ تَبَرُّجَ ٱلۡجَٰهِلِيَّةِ ٱلۡأُولَىٰۖ وَأَقِمۡنَ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ وَءَاتِينَ ٱلزَّكَوٰةَ وَأَطِعۡنَ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥٓۚ إِنَّمَا يُرِيدُ ٱللَّهُ لِيُذۡهِبَ عَنكُمُ ٱلرِّجۡسَ أَهۡلَ ٱلۡبَيۡتِ وَيُطَهِّرَكُمۡ تَطۡهِيرٗا ٣٣
And stay in your houses and do not display your finery like the displaying of the ignorance of yore; and keep up prayer, and pay the poor-rate, and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah only desires to keep away the uncleanness from you, O people of the House! and to purify you a (thorough) purifying. (Al-Ahzaab ; 33).
إِنَّ ٱلۡمُسۡلِمِينَ وَٱلۡمُسۡلِمَٰتِ وَٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ وَٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَٰتِ وَٱلۡقَٰنِتِينَ وَٱلۡقَٰنِتَٰتِ وَٱلصَّٰدِقِينَ وَٱلصَّٰدِقَٰتِ وَٱلصَّٰبِرِينَ وَٱلصَّٰبِرَٰتِ وَٱلۡخَٰشِعِينَ وَٱلۡخَٰشِعَٰتِ وَٱلۡمُتَصَدِّقِينَ وَٱلۡمُتَصَدِّقَٰتِ وَٱلصَّٰٓئِمِينَ وَٱلصَّٰٓئِمَٰتِ وَٱلۡحَٰفِظِينَ فُرُوجَهُمۡ وَٱلۡحَٰفِظَٰتِ وَٱلذَّٰكِرِينَ ٱللَّهَ كَثِيرٗا وَٱلذَّٰكِرَٰتِ أَعَدَّ ٱللَّهُ لَهُم مَّغۡفِرَةٗ وَأَجۡرًا عَظِيمٗا ٣٥
Surely the men who submit and the women who submit, and the believing men and the believing women, and the obeying men and the obeying women, and the truthful men and the truthful women, and the patient men and the patient women and the humble men and the humble women, and the almsgiving men and the almsgiving women, and the fasting men and the fasting women, and the men who guard their private parts and the women who guard, and the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember– Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward. (Al-Ahzaab ; 35).
فَٱسۡتَجَابَ لَهُمۡ رَبُّهُمۡ أَنِّي لَآ أُضِيعُ عَمَلَ عَٰمِلٖ مِّنكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ أَوۡ أُنثَىٰۖ بَعۡضُكُم مِّنۢ بَعۡضٖۖ فَٱلَّذِينَ هَاجَرُواْ وَأُخۡرِجُواْ مِن دِيَٰرِهِمۡ وَأُوذُواْ فِي سَبِيلِي وَقَٰتَلُواْ وَقُتِلُواْ لَأُكَفِّرَنَّ عَنۡهُمۡ سَئَِّاتِهِمۡ وَلَأُدۡخِلَنَّهُمۡ جَنَّٰتٖ تَجۡرِي مِن تَحۡتِهَا ٱلۡأَنۡهَٰرُ ثَوَابٗا مِّنۡ عِندِ ٱللَّهِۚ وَٱللَّهُ عِندَهُۥ حُسۡنُ ٱلثَّوَابِ ١٩٥
So their Lord accepted their prayer: That I will not waste the work of a worker among you, whether male or female, the one of you being from the other; they, therefore, who fled and were turned out of their homes and persecuted in My way and who fought and were slain, I will most certainly cover their evil deeds, and I will most certainly make them enter gardens beneath which rivers flow; a reward from Allah, and with Allah is yet better reward. (Ali ‘Imraan; ; 195).
Ummu Salamah was also very concerned about religious matters. One day she saw the Prophet Muhammad pray two rak’ahs after the sahalat of Asr. That’s a new thing for her because she had heard that he forbade the sunnah prayer after Asr. She then asked him about that. He then explained that the prayer he was doing was a substitute for the sunnah prayer after the Dhuhr prayer because he did not have time to do it.
Ummu Salamah is very good at dealing with problems. Once when many people led by Uthman ibn Affan protested. Muslims were divided into two parties; there are those who support it and some oppose it – those who oppose it are divided into three groups. She advised him to continue to protect both parties.
Ummu Salamah’s intelligence was also seen when addressing the issue between Ali bin Abi Talib and Aisyah bint Abu Bakr. Actually, she wanted to help him (Ali bin Abi Talib) but he was worried that the problem would be even greater. She then came to him and handed over his son named Umar to help him. She also advised Aisha to solve the problem according to the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad.
There are differences of opinion among Muslim historians about the year Ummu Salamah died. This difference of opinion revolves around the years 58, 59, or 61 hijria. But a valid opinion says that she passed away in 58 hijria during the month of Ramadan. She is the wife of the Prophet Muhammad who last died. She was buried at Baqi cemetery.
May Allah’s mercy and forgiveness be poured out on Ummu Salamah and Abu Salamah. Amen!
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We can also find the information above in, Ali Yusuf as-Subki, Zaujaatu an-Nabiy ath-Thaahiraat wa Hikmatu Ta’addudihinna, al-Faith Publishing, Cairo, p. 125-142 and 244-245.