Islam for Muslim: The Virtue of Connecting and Tightening Family Relations ~ Hi readers! In this article I will invite you all to know the virtue of connecting and strengthening family relations in Islam. There are many reasons why in this article I raised this topic. In the reality of everyday life, of course we know there are some people who quarrel with family. Between children and parents, for example. Or, between fellow brothers. Not infrequently the battle is long tails until they are reluctant to greet each other, or even they are hostile to each other.
Such a reality, in addition to causing personal upheaval, will also cause turmoil in the family and society. I think this is a common problem that exists in every country. Actually, there have been many steps discussed, even practiced, to tackle the incident. But what is the view of Islam about the enmity that resulted in the breakdown of familial relations? What are the consequences? How is Islam to tackle the problem?
To answer some of the above questions I will mention the verses of the Qur’an and some hadiths of Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, so that we can then conclude the correct answer. In the Qur’an Allah Ta’ala said;
فَهَلۡ عَسَيۡتُمۡ إِن تَوَلَّيۡتُمۡ أَن تُفۡسِدُواْ فِي ٱلۡأَرۡضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوٓاْ أَرۡحَامَكُمۡ ٢٢ أُوْلَٰٓئِكَ ٱلَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ ٱللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمۡ وَأَعۡمَىٰٓ أَبۡصَٰرَهُمۡ ٢٣
But if you held command, you were sure to make mischief in the land and cut off the ties of kinship!  Those it is whom Allah has cursed so He has made them deaf and blinded their eyes . (Muhammad ; 22-23).
Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said;
عن عبد الله بن سلام رضي الله عنه قال : سمعت رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم يقول : أيها الناس , أفشوا السلام وأطعموا الطعام وصلوا الأرحام وصلوا باليل والناس نيام تدخلوا الجنة بسلام
From Abdullah ibn Salam radliyallâhu ‘anhu, he said, “I heard Messenger of Allah sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam said,” O people, there is salutation, give food, connect family, pray at night when people sleep, then you will go to heaven safely.” (The hadith is narrated by at-Tirmidzi, 2485, Ibnu Majah, 3251, Ahmad, 5/451).
عن أبي ذر , قال : أمرني خليلي صلي الله عليه وسلم بسبع : أمرني بحب المساكين و الدنوّ منهه , وأمرني أن أنظر إلى من دوني ولا أنظر إلى من هو فوقي , وأمرني أن أصل الرحم وإن أدبرت , وأمرني أن لا أسأل أحدا شيئا , وأمرني أن أقول بالحق ولو كان مرا , وأمرني أن لا أخاف في الله لومة لائم , وأمرني أن أكثر من قول : لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله , فإنهن من كنز تحت عرش
From Abu Dharr, he said, “My Beloved (Prophet Muhammad) shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam told me to do seven things; he told me to love the poor and approached them, he told me that I should see the person below me not the person above me, he told me to connect the family relations even though they turned away, he told me not to ask something to someone, he told me to I say the truth even though it is bitter, he told me that I should not be afraid of being in the way of Allah when I get insult from someone insulting, he tells me that I often say amatr لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله (no ability and power except only belong’s to Allah) because the sentence comes from the storage place under ‘Arsy. (The hadith is narrated by Ahmad bin Hanbal, 21415).
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم : لا يدخل الجنة قاطع . زاد في رواية , قال سفيان : يعني قاطع الرحم
Messenger of Allah shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “It will not enter Paradise a breaker.” In another narrative there is an additional editorial of the hadith, Sufyan said, “The meaning is the person who breaks the family relationship.” (The hadith is narrated by Muslim, 4644, Abu Daud, 1448).
Actually, there are still many hadiths that talk about this topic. But I think some of the above data is enough to be used to understand the Islamic view.
If we understand the verses of Quran and some of the above hadiths, then at least we can conclude some things as follows;
One; The people who break the family relationship will be cursed by Allah Ta’ala.
Two; The person who breaks the familial relationship will be healed and blinded by Allah Ta’ala. It may be that the deaf and blind meanings here are deaf and blind in their understanding of meaning; that the person who breaks a familial relationship can not distinguish between right and wrong.
Three; One of the requirements if one wishes to enter Paradise later is to connect a familial relationship.
Four; Connecting kinship ties including the advice of the prophet Muhammad shallallaahu alaihi wa sallam on Abu Dharr and all his people.
Five; The person who breaks the family relationship will not go to Heaven.
Those are some of the views of Islam on people who break the kinship ties. In other words, breaking a kinship relationship does not include the teachings of Islam. Islam strongly opposes such behavior.
I think that’s enough for this article about the virtue of connecting and tightening family relations according to Islam. May be useful!
See you again in the next article!