Islamic Learning Center: Hi all readers! All men want to have a good wife. Women also want to have a good husband. But in this article, I will explain tips on choosing good wife. The problem that is often encountered is, how to choosing good wife? What are the characteristics of a good woman?
Good women’s standards are varying. Yup! Everyone has their own standards. But Islam has explained who is a good woman, who is worth marrying. We can find this explanation in the hadith below;
عَنْ أَبِيْ هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , قَالَ : تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ , لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِيْنِهَا , فَاظْفَرْ بَذَاتِ الدِّيْنِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ . مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ
From Abu Hurairah radliyallahu ‘anhu, from the Prophet (Muhammad) sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. He (Prophet Muhammad) said, “Women are married because of four reasons; because of her wealth, glory, beauty, and religion. Choose a wife because of her religion so that your destiny is not unlucky.” The hadith is narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
All Readers! The hadith explains that in general men marry women for four reasons; because of her wealth, glory, beauty, and religion. These are all things that men consider when they are looking for women to marry. Maybe there are men who have ambitions to marry a woman who has four criteria.
Of course, finding women who have these four criteria is very difficult. In the end, men must make peace with reality. If he does not find a woman who has these four criteria, let alone the woman wants to marry him, then he must choose a woman who has several or even one of these criteria. If the facts are so, then which criteria should be prioritized?
If we understand the hadith above, then of course we understand that if a man cannot get a woman who is rich, respectable, beautiful, and has a good religion, then he must choose a woman whose religion is good. We can say that it is a logical consequence if he does not get a woman who has four criteria. Fortunately for a man who has a rich, respectable, beautiful, and good wife – but how?
There is one important thing I want to say here, that what is meant by women whose religion is good is women who are obedient and obedient to the teachings of their religion. she follows all the commands of his religion and steers clear of all restrictions on his religion. But I think we will also find it difficult to find women who are like that, because women are like humans who have no sin. How could she have sin if he did all the commands of his religion and knew the prohibition of his religion?!
Then what’s the solution?! Of course, men must see it from various aspects. He can’t be too ambitious. He must see women as human beings who can do good and make mistakes. Thus, the solution is to find a woman who always tries to be good, according to her religion — and that’s if she is willing to be his wife!
What if the woman is poor? Do not worry! Pay attention to Quran verse below!
وَأَنكِحُواْ ٱلۡأَيَٰمَىٰ مِنكُمۡ وَٱلصَّٰلِحِينَ مِنۡ عِبَادِكُمۡ وَإِمَآئِكُمۡۚ إِن يَكُونُواْ فُقَرَآءَ يُغۡنِهِمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦۗ وَٱللَّهُ وَٰسِعٌ عَلِيمٞ ٣٢
And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing. (An-Nur ; 32).
That is a brief explanation of tips on choosing good wife according to Islam. Hopefully this article is useful! Amen!
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